2017 is one of those years that I actually grew a lot. I experienced a lot of pain, I did a lot of mistakes, I trusted a bunch of wrong guys and I even got conned a number of times. For me, this year has been the ups and downs, the lessons and the success stories, the good and the bad. Let’s get to it:
- Life is a roller coaster
I learnt that when the good days are around, cherish them and use them to the maximum and when the bad days knock the door, embrace them as well. They are there to cleanse you, to make you better. They are your stairs to the next floor.
- Not everyone is there to stay
People come to your life for a season and some for a reason. But both these people are important in your growth as a person. This year I have lost like 5 of my friends that I thought had my good interests at heart but all along, they were there to use me to attain their goals. In as much as when I remember all that, my heart aches and I sometimes do shed tears, but I have learnt to forgive, lower my expectations and just move on.
- You have to work hard, YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD.
Life has no short cut. You got to do what you got to do. You cannot sit down and day dream and paint your dreams in the air. You have to stand up, pull everything together and get your work done. Success is about moving out of your comfort zone, success is not complete without some effort and sweat.
- Organizing and planning yourself is key
Plans are vital. You do not just wake up and do things. Successful people contemplate on each of the steps they want to take so as to be on the right track. 2017 taught me that you should plan your week before the week begins.
- Your time will come
We spend half of our time comparing ourselves to other people. Life is not a competition. We all have different destinations. So even if things are not working out today, they shall work out tomorrow if you are persistent and determined. Do not spend most of your time lamenting and wishing for what other people have; your time will come.
- Give more even when you receive less
This could be love, it could be affection; it is not necessarily material. Do you know something? Giving is like a rule of nature. When you give, you have to receive. Sometimes in a much higher scale than you ever expected.
- Support other people in their work
Well, I have realized that in my community, we spend so much time pulling each other down. When we see people doing their thing, we are like “She should not be doing that” or “He should have done it this way”. We just talk with no action. What if we come out and help him or her be better in whatever that they are doing, and tomorrow, when you have your own event, these same people can come out and spread the word about you?
- Do not judge anyone
I have seen “saints” behaving in satanic ways and I have seen “satans” having pure and accommodative hearts. We have no right to point fingers at anyone, remember when you point one finger, four fingers point back at you. As long as we are here in this world, our main priority should be to see how we can maximize on changing the world and working on real time global issues to make our Lord pleased than focus on petty issues that have been dividing us since time immemorial. We cannot grow if we are so narrow-minded and we act as if we have a paradise warrant. They say, ‘Do not judge a book by its cover”. You can never judge people by how they wear or how they interact and you have no idea how pleasing or displeasing they make their God feel about them every day.
- POSITIVE VIBES
Can somebody shout this with me? I hate negative energy, I hate negative people, I just hate people who are out there to tell others YOU CANNOT! Who are you? Before this year, I could simply tolerate such people but 2017 taught me otherwise. You cannot tolerate energy drainers, you cannot tolerate negative vibes. The world is already facing a lot of problems and the last thing we need is someone telling us that we are dumb and we cannot reach the stars. There are some people the moment they open their mouth, you are like, “Just shut up. Bye, Felecia”.
- You need some alone time
You cannot be out there helping people out and your heart is bleeding, almost dying. You have bottled it all up and you do not even have time to sit down, ask yourself what is wrong and find strategies to heal yourself. For me, alone time is crucial. Yes, crucial is the word. I have to sit down and self-evaluate myself and see what is going wrong and what I can do to make myself better.
- Reading and writing is therapy
In 2017, I learnt to be more particular with what I feed my brain and I even worked on my own reading list and ensured that I got it done by December. It has been challenging but was worth the time. My writing really improved this year and I will even be sharing my spoken word poetry pieces with you guys now.
- Community service is fulfilling
This year has been a good year for my organization, Motivational Talks for Youth. With my team, we have been up and going doing all sorts of events and trainings to empower our youth and it has been both challenging and exciting. Want to join us? Well, contact 0707051567 for more information.
- Embracing yourself is liberating
2017 taught me that I should embrace who I am because whoever will love me (my husband to be precise) will have to love me the way I am. I have really loved the concept of being natural and just loving every single pimple that I have. I have never been more loving to my own self than this year. I found myself freeing myself from everything that disrespects my self-love. And it has been liberating.
- You are not biryani
Oh Lord, how we waste half of our lives pleasing people who will never appreciate our love. So 2017 taught me that you cannot please everyone out there, you are not biryani and you might be the ripest peach out there and there will still be someone who does not love peaches.
What did 2017 teach you?